Motherhood can be tough! Going from one to a mom of two is definitely an adjustment. There are truly lots of positives of becoming a mom the second time around, as I mentioned in things that are easier with your second baby. Those are still very true. But there are also lots and lots of new situations and personalities to adjust to.
Of course, your kids are very different. You learn how to mother in a whole new way for this new personality and little being. And then when they are both toddlers- you learn to mother a relationship amongst the two of them even further.
Being a work at home mom sometimes feels like I’m on this hamster wheel because my home and work life all happen in the same space. I’m either changing a diaper, making someone food, taking someone to school or kid’s class and then working on my computer day in and day out. Since this all pretty much happens in my living room/kitchen area- it all just blends in together.
If I don’t take time to get off the hamster wheel and look at the big picture- I would go nuts. Because it can get stressful- regardless of what our motherhood life looks like- work away from home, at home, stay at home mom- you name it. Even after you’ve established a great daily routine for them- the job doesn’t end there.
There are many things that are tougher with two. The stressors can really weigh you down. At our home and most I assume, the tough moments are ongoing- they will always be there in some way or another.
We consistently have a toy theft situation where both my boys end up in tears. Other times, they have to be told to keep their hands to themselves or think about how they made the other one feel. It’s constant.
So when that happens, I like to think about all of the things they do that are amazing. It keeps it all in perspective of what this journey is all about.
I went to a parent night at my son Miles’ school and the teacher was talking about a seminar she attended. The speaker wrote about what really makes people happy and what in their childhood contributes to that happiness.
Majority of it revolves around mindset. First priority is to have strong connections with people you love and things you love to do. How you viewed the world was a close second in importance: being optimistic and celebrating what you are grateful for.
When we talk about and share the things that are good- we are by no means minimizing the tough parts.
It’s exhausting work. For us and for them. They are learning how to interact with other people in the deepest and most intimate ways. Mostly because they live there and aren’t going anywhere. 🙂
But man, when it’s good, it’s soooo good. Taking some time each night to think about the great moments or enjoy them with your significant other. It can be really refreshing.
These are some of my favorite moments with my boys. When I’m observing their friendship and bond grow stronger each day.
Best Moments as Bond Brothers
Music is life at our house. They have the best dance parties together. Both running around and dancing in circles. If you follow me on instagram, you’ve probably picked up on that. LOL
Sometimes they’ll get their “instruments” to play along- one on the drums and the other guitar or the microphone.
It’ hilarious when Ellis turns to Miles for the next moves they are going to dance to or imitates almost all of his expressions.
Miles getting hot wheels for himself AND Ellis when getting ready to play. Pretty much any time they share without being asked.
How they look at each other and just laugh and laugh.
How they have their own language at times- repeating random sounds back and forth.
When they share their snacks with each other- making sure each one can reach the bowl or plate.
Developing empathy. Miles can tell Ellis is having a hard time at dinner and says, “Mommy, I don’t think Ellis wants to eat. He’s so tired that he is ready to just go straight to sleep.”
Both of them cuddled up on the couch with me watching a movie- holding their favorite blankets. One of the BEST feelings and moments.
When Miles goes to “get Ellis” from his nap, which means he puts the ottoman near the crib and climbs in with him to play.
I’ll never get over when they randomly hold hands or Miles leads Ellis down the street on a walk.
How sad Ellis gets when Miles walks into his classroom at school. It’s so sweet that he misses his playmate for the few hours he’s not around.
Those are so so worth all the craziness that comes in with raising multiple kids.
What are some of your favorite sibling moments?
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